I’m not into new year’s resolutions, but by necessity, I do need to make some lifestyle changes this year. I got the flu in early December, did a full round of antibiotics only to have an allergic reaction to the antibiotics at the tail end, and then get violently sick with flu and pneumonia a week later. I am now done with that round of antibiotics and have had the full realization that I need to take it easy and rest, and build a rested lifestyle for at least a month or two. I don’t want to just “do less;” I want to completely remove everything that complicates my life and/or causes me a modicum of stress and re-build from scratch.
In terms of meal planning and grocery shopping, I have a few solutions in mind. I’d like to try Amazon Fresh, for one. Amazon is headquartered in Seattle and our city is one of a few around the country to test-drive their new grocery delivery services. I’ve heard good things – you can get free delivery if you spend $300 or more each month, and specify a really narrow delivery window (i.e., between 8 – 9 a.m.). For produce, you can select ripe, almost ripe, or not ripe. You can pre-set different grocery lists onto your account for different meals and rotate lists throughout the month. It appeals to me that I wouldn’t be able to impulse shop, which would hopefully counteract the lack of sale pricing.
Second, Tristan and I recently finished our first round of Blue Apron meal delivery. I will definitely post a full review, but off hand, it was great … even Tristan thought the meals were worth the money. Blue Apron delivers ingredients for three meals for two people each week, and you can skip weeks whenever you want. The meals are $60 each week ($10 per person per meal), but there are Gilt and Rue La La deals periodically. This meal subscription service is perfect for people who like to try new foods, use seasonal produce and enjoy cooking, but who don’t like (or have time) to plan or shop. Sounds like me!
In regards to mental health, I’ve decided to take a serious whack out of my Pinterest habits. I think it’s made me more manic than anything else. In the words of my friend Kiri, Pinterest has a tendency to make you hate your clothes and want a brand new house. I would agree – and if I’m not feeling inadequate, I’m feeling judgy. Or just plain overstimulated. I mean, am I the only one here, guys?! I have enough pins already pinned to last me a lifetime, and I’ve enjoyed that creative inspiration, but constantly looking for that new pinspiration is causing more headache than it’s worth (perspiration?). I’ve removed the app from my phone so that I can’t “mindlessly” scroll through in bed or when I’m killing time. I am “allowed” to refer to existing boards and pin my blog posts but not look at the main feed. No. new. pins.
Similarly, I am taking a serious look at my blog consumption, especially now that I have a blog myself. My friend Erika wrote a great post on jealousy … which I read immediately following having the thought “gosh, I’m so jealous of her blog.” HA! She says, “Don’t compare your beginning to someone else’s middle.” Isn’t that the truth? Anyway, I have a solid handful of blogs that I follow regularly, and I’m not going to get too caught up on never ever looking at them ever (I have enough on my plate trying to give up Pinterest!). But I do want to be cognizant of things in my life that cause me to be discontent; that make it all too easy to fall into the comparison death cycle, and again lead me to feel inadequate and/or judgy. I think I can have a completely inspired blog without “seeking inspiration” as much as I have been.
In terms of keeping up on chores, back in December, I did some research on grown up chore charts. In case you’re wondering, here were some of my findings:
- Real Simple – Daily Quick Cleaning Checklist
- The Nest – Task Mastering Checklist
- Martha Stewart – 6 Things To Do Everyday
- Martha Stewart – Weekly Cleaning Checklist
- Upsees – Family Chore Management System
- Unclutterer – Mastering Recurring Responsibilities
As a newlywed, for me it was helpful to simply see all of these tasks listed out… it made the chores seem finite and therefore doable. But the most important thing I started doing was to stop trying to be Superwife. Tristan had me tell him the stuff I needed help on. He’s far more a creature of routine than I am, so even if I don’t get to my chore goals each week, at least one of us is doing something around the house.
I’m not sure I want to pour myself into some new chore chart while I’m working on a getting a “rested lifestyle,” but perhaps adding just one weekly chore a month into my routine will slowly add up to a clean home. Or maybe I make a chore chart, but keep it lighthearted by integrating stickers and prizes. We’re all really just a bunch of big kids in this world. What do you think? Any non-stressful ideas to keeping up on housework?
I’m kind of excited at the prospect of giving myself one giant break. When I’m busy trying to be the perfect wife, I’m not a very fun wife (I’m exhausted, for one!). It’s important that the things I’m investing in are meaningful to Tristan, too.
It occurred to me that pioneer women back in the 1800s (the quintessential housewives) didn’t have modern technology to waste time on or compare themselves to others with. Even Martha Stewart didn’t have the internet when she first got famous for being able to “do it all.” Were we ever supposed to be perfect housewives AND have full time jobs AND document it all via perfectly posed pictures and eloquently written blog posts on the internet? Surely we can’t expect ourselves to uphold all the tasks of females in generations past AND in generations present! I’m ranting. But it seriously makes me question the sheer volume of tasks on our lists and why we try to do it all. Is it because we look at our blog sisters and assume that they’ve got it figured out? Until I learn how to be realistic with myself, I need to seriously wean off the blogosphere.
Anyway, I’m getting all worked up and clearly that is not very restful.